It will be quite hard to explain the concept of divorce to a young child. They will be used to a life where they expect their parents to always be near and a separation of parents will be difficult for them to deal with. The important fact to keep in mind is to always be involved with your children’s lives no matter how many conflicts you go through in yours. We will be looking at a few ways that will help them cope better with parental separation in the article below.
Talking to the children
You will need advice from a Singapore litigation lawyer when you are filing for divorce. When you are sure of your decision to separate, sit the kids down and explain the situation to them together. It is important that you present a united front. Try not to blame each other or have a heated discussion in front of the children. Things will go much smoothly if you practice the conversation beforehand and iron out what you want to tell them. Make sure your child understands what happens and most importantly, know that they are not to blame for the change in circumstances. Remind them that you will always be there for them and let them know what changes the future may bring.
Answer their questions and provide comfort
Your children will be noticeably upset about the changes in their life. Ask them how you can alleviate their pain. It is natural for them to be angry. Sometimes they may not react at all. They will act out in other ways to release their frustration about what is going on. There may be changes in behaviour, appetite and sleeping patterns. Answer any question they have and be as truthful as possible. Let them know that you value their opinions.
Encourage them to express their feelings
Children are very resilient and over time they will get used to the new living situations. But the initial stage will be quite tricky to handle. Encourage them to say what they think and feel. Don’t let them think that you may punish them for being honest. You can help them use an aesthetic medium to express their thoughts such as painting, drawing or writing. Ask them what you can do to make them feel better. You should also take good care of your health in order to cope with the stress of the situation. If needed, direct your children to therapy where they can talk to a certified counsellor about their hopes and fears.
Maintain a routine
Make sure that there are fewer disruptions in your children’s life as possible. Try to give them individual time with each parent. Figure out a schedule and make sure that both you and your partner continue to be in your children’s lives. Monitor your children carefully for any inconsistencies or changes in behaviour.